Sunday, March 11, 2007

Letting Go

             

Sheesh, make a wish and letting go....not an easy day for me.  When my children were small, I could kiss the boo-boo and make it all go away. 

Letting our adult children go....I've already let all three of them fly.  Megan was a wonderful teen in high school.  She resisted peer pressure and did her own thing; no drinking; no sex.  She prided herself on having a mind of her own.  She was terrified before she left for college.  She attends an old, prestigious university in Pittsburgh.  It's very hard to get accepted into and costs an arm and a leg.  She graduated in honors classes with a 3.9.  Her biggest fear was that most of the students there are from upper middle class to extremely wealthy families.  Of course, we barely scrape by.  She was afraid of not being accepted.  What I failed to realize is that she would embrace her newfound freedom and run with it...run right into the very things she had avoided proudly in high school.

Letting her leave today was far harder than 2 1/2 years ago.  My mama instincts want to wrap her in a cocoon and hide her away but that's not realistic.  She will be entering the world, once again, where she went totally astray.  There is absolutely nothing I can do but hope and pray that she has learned enough this past week to grow beyond the endless temptations that will be placed in front of her.

I don't mention my workplace much but I will today.  On Friday, I had to take a couple of hours off and felt that I should explain my situation to my boss.  He is a wonderful boss.  I closed the door and talked with him.  He is in his early 60's and has three grown children and several grandchildren.  What I didn't expect was to see an occasional tear being wiped from his eye.  It blew me away.  I never felt such love and caring envelop me from a supervisor in my life.  I still thank the Lord everyday for placing me in this division.

He had received an e-mail from his choir director.  He is very active in his church and has a wonderful voice; sings in the choir...lol..sometimes he breaks out into a song for us during the day; impromptu.

This is what his choir director sent to him and what he gave to me to give to Megan.....

"God isn't as concerned about the "place" you're in right now as much as He is in the faith that is being developed in that place."

Much love........CHRIS

30 comments:

candlejmr said...

I have a feeling Megan has learned alot since she has been home.  And you know, sometimes we have to fall...HARD....to really learn the lessons.  She fell hard, and I think she will be fine.  You raised her right and she is just testing the waters of her life.  I think she'll be staying on dry land for a while (lol)

What a wonderful and special boss you have.  If only everyone in the world could be so caring and kind!  What a wonderful world it would be!

((hugs))
Jeanne

jeadie05 said...

I can sympathise with how you are feeling ,just now Chris,but trust in what she takes back with her in her heart ,you gave her the basics to work on ,there comes a time when we have to let them go and make their own mistakes,try not to wear your self out worrying about what may not happen ,Your Boss sounds a good man and the email ,contained good advice .love Jan xx

springangel235 said...

Your words are gold...your heart...the best...and Megan will be fine...she has you!
So blessed are you, to have such a kind and caring boss.  He is #1 in my book.  I think all will be fine...Megan has learned, the a hard lesson and it won't happen again...hope you have a beautiful Sunday evening Chris.  
Hugs and love,
Joyce

nightmaremom said...

Very powerful Chris.. very very powerful.  I hope you tucked it away for her to read regularly.  I will keep her in good thoughts.
love ya
d

lisa41076 said...

Chris, what a beautiful thing your boss said to you, he sounds so awesome !!!!!!!!! Hugs Lisa

tendernoggle said...

awwwwwwwwww....that was so wonderfully caring of your boss...in a world that is more and more filled with heartless people isn't it a miracle to actually have a good and decent boss?
love ya,
carlene

mrsm711 said...

Although my Joey is 16 we are going through a rough patch.  I have been reading your entries out loud to my family with hope that Joey will understand that things happen.  No matter who you are.  I always said they were under my wing, but the wing has cracked and I am feeling some pain.  Hopefully our kids will avoid the temptations in the world away from ours.  We can only pray.  :)
http://journals.aol.com/mrsm711/LatteDah/     Tracy

jlocorriere05 said...

Your boss sounds a lovely man Chris, not a bit like my Jane!! I do hope Megan has learnt her lesson. Jeannette xx  http://journals.aol.co.uk/jlocorriere05/Welcometomytravels/  

my78novata said...

yeah eh is looking to see what faith we gain isnt he. GOD is so all seeing its amazing his love and compassion . Sounds like you also got a great boss that sees GOD. Man its hard letting go and after they have blown it sometimes that makes it all the more painful adn One day they will hav echildren and know and that is painful too

lanurseprn said...

Your boss sounds like a wonderful man.  I'm sure Megan will be ok. She's learned a lot from this, I'm sure. How could she not?
Take care and have a good week,
Pam

penniepooh said...

Chris, I love that email that was passed along to Megan. I hope she does well now that she`s back to school.
Love you xo
Penny

xxroxymamaxx said...

I cannot get past the letting go either.   I wish Megan the best.  And I"m glad your boss was understanding too.  Love ya, Shelly

am4039 said...

Your boss sounds like a wonderful man. How lucky to have him. I hope Megan is on the right track and I know it's so hard to let them go.

rdautumnsage said...

We never really truly do let go do we? To me it seems no matter what they do or how they go about their lives our children take pieces of us with them; And there you go hon, Megan has pieces of you that she takes away with her. On the way to becoming adults children tend to slip and slide along the way, but they did that coming into this world too. Now with prayers and fingers crossed-we hope they learn to catch themselves as well before they fall. I believe she will learn hon, the price is weighing rather heavy on her now and that is the beginning of building a conscience about your actions and the reprecussions. Hang in there your a wonderful mother and a great friend as well. (Hugs) Indigo

jckfrstross said...

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Deb

siennastarr said...

Amazing the places that Angels appear, when we least expect it.  They are all around us, and always seem to make themselves known at just the right time.

Gina was the same way as Megan, Chris.  She was the perfect daughter in highschool.  No problems, ever.  After she graduated she started running with the wrong crowd... and well.. you know the rest.  So, I can totally relate to what you are saying.  It is hard to let them go, but, we have to.  We have to trust that they have learned from their current mistake, and will not repeat the same thing over again.

Hang in their my friend... You are in my prayers.. as is Megan..

Love you
jackie

queenb8261 said...

I don't think we can ever totally let go. They are our babies and we want to fix all their "boo boos". Sounds like your boss is a kind & generous soul. I hope all goes well with Megan. Sendin you  good thoughts and plenty of prayers.
Hugs, Barb  

astoriasand said...

You have only let go in words Chris.They are ours for life,we never let go.My prayers will be said that all you wish will be yours and more.You stay proud of your family.Knowone has the perfect family.You are a brilliant mum and your family know this.How lovely to have a wonderful caring boss.Wise words he gave to you for Megan.Take Care God Bless have a lovely week.
Astoriasand http://journals.aol.co.uk/astoriasand/MYSIMPLERHYMES

princesssaurora said...

{{{ Chris }}}}  So hard... I wish I had wise words...but I don't really.  I am sending prayers... and will be here lending you support.

be well,
Dawn

queeniemart said...

ok, crying again and your journal was the first i have came to today. YOU, my friend, are a guiding light for me. Dont you ever forget it.
I have your Megan in my prayers and will have you both on my mind today.....which i do anyway. I pray this shining star of a daughter of yours holds her head high and stays strong. She is SO LOVED.

As are you.
lisa

demandnlilchit said...

The teen years always begins the time when they act up, try new and sometime dangerous things, but eventually everything we instilled in them while growing up returns and all is right with the world again. I'ts like I told my own Mother (Wild child here lol) I heard everything you alsways said, I just didn't apply it to my life until I was older... 23ish. Hang in there Mom!!

ally123130585918 said...

Chris your Boss sounds like one in a million ~ such a caring lovely person ~ you are so lucky to have him as your Boss ~ Ally

helloimkara said...

What a much needed blessing. I often wish more bosses and co-workers were understanding and kind! Im glad he was understanding and there for you!

Kara :)

gehi6 said...

That is a very nice message.  It's hard to tell what your kids will do.  I know I shocked my parents badly when I ended up in a psych ward totally without warning.  But it was a dreadful shock to me, too.  I am sure that Megan was shocked too, when her luck suddenly ran out.  I am glad that your supervisor has feelngs.  I can tell he gave you a real lift.  Gerry http://journals.aol.com/gehi6/daughters-of-the-shadow-men

pippa1116 said...

have a wonderful week Chris and thanks for such a nice entry!
tina

imgr8phil said...

I'm sure it is tough to watch your children grow up and then leave the nest.  That is probably something I will never feel since my child hasn't been in my house for over ten years, and she was only five when she was here last.  Anyway, hope all is well and that you have a good week ahead.  Take care.

Phil

helmswondermom said...

It sounds like you have a basically good, good girl, who just made a bad mistake.  I hope she's learned from it and appreciates having you as a mom!  Sounds like you have a great boss, too!
Lori
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zoepaul6968 said...

She will be fine and lessons learned will carry her through hun all the best zoe xx
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shayshaydc said...

Chris it is sooooooo hard to let them go sometimes!!!!! I have tried to wrap mine in a cocoon at times... it's hard not to when you are a mother!!!!! Looks to me like you raised them to the best of your ability.... have faith that you have done a good job!!!!! http://journals.aol.com/shayshaydc/Golfaholic
Sharon:)

rebuketheworld said...

Girl, I could feel yah on that. Those cocoons we want to keep on our children are bittersweet. I would have the same fears as you. Megan is going to make mistakes just as we did but boy, its harder to watch them make them. The world is such a tough place. That word that your daughter recieved I could hold onto as well. The "place" we are in, can feel all emcompassing when what we are going through is what God wants to reveal. I am sure in a light of fire with mine. Not easy but good. Praying for Megan and Gods hand on her heart, mind and ways. ~Raven