Saturday, September 30, 2006

I'm still dreaming....dreaming that peace will pervade my valley soon.  I'm thankful that the happenings are minor but piling one upon the other stresses me to no end.  Before I head off on a rant, Shelly's birthday was yesterday.  XX Roxy Mama XX  I meant to put this up yesterday but fell asleep at 9:00.  So stop by and wish her a happy belated birthday....sorry Shelly....Hope you had a wonderful day because you are the best!

I did find my kitty.  She had gotten under Megan's bed on the trundle bed.  I'm not sure how she accomplished this because she is a bit chubby.  Her blood work came back excellent.  She held down food yesterday but this morning she didn't.  I'm stopping at the vet's today to buy some prescription food for sensitive stomachs.  If that doesn't work, an x-ray needs to be taken of her stomach and intestines.  The good thing is she is acting her normal self.  She doesn't appear ill one bit.  I am not saying a word to Megan about this because she will be totally upset.

I did an entry this morning because a fuss has arisen over Becky's move to her aunt's house.  I wish she had gotten the nerve to tell her aunt "no" a month ago when Becky started doubting the validity of the move.

Becky called me Thursday night totally hysterical.  She totally stresses over school; always has.  She has been away from a school atmosphere for 3 years.  Her first test was on Wednesday.  I went through 4 years of undergrad with Becky.  She, for one, does not think she is smart.  She says she "works hard."  Granted, she does.  I'm no dummy but no way could I even begin to work hard and get a bio/chem degree with "only" a 3.89 QPA.  My butt would have been on academic probation in a hot minute.  My point is this child so under estimates everything about herself.  I share the blame with her father for this because I put my blinders on for 17 years of her life as to the damage he was causing to her psyche and soul.

Now the move....I was so blaming Becky for not being prepared.  There is always another side to every story.  Half of her things are in the basement of the house she is moving into.  She had no boxes; she has another sinus infection and no insurance because the University has somehow not transferred her medical insurance from an employee of the school to a working student of the school; she had one major test and three next week.  I read her MySpace blog last night.  My heart was breaking for her.

She called again last night.  A wonderful neighbor lady had gone and gotten her boxes, came over and packed her kitchen things and all the stuff she had needed to use during the week.  When they went to my ex SIL's house to unpack the things and put them away, nothing, and I mean, NOTHING has been moved out of that house.  The closests and cabinets are still filled with her aunt's things.  The new hubby has a house that they were going to move into last weekend but never did.  Becky has to be out of her apt. today and have it cleaned.  My solution, which Becky won't take, was to move everything back to her apt., renew her lease, as her apt. hasn't been rented, and say "Sorry, but I just can't afford the house or afford to lose anymore time for my studies with this move."

My BF suggested that I intercede.  Oy vay, I think I best keep my mouth shut because my temper will flare with this one.  I'm leaving soon for Becky's.  Let me tell you, I'm more than half tempted to start moving things back to Becky's old apt.  Becky is still young and hasn't learned the art of saying "no."  She didn't want to upset her aunt before the wedding by saying she wasn't moving so now she's in a total mess.  I'm trying to be nice here but my ex SIL just got married for the first time at 49 and for lack of better terms is most definitely set in her ways, if you catch my drift.

Becky tried to tell her it wasn't going to work out.  Her dad set the stage for that one but she got "the look" and backed off.  She didn't want to cause her aunt stress before the wedding.

My car needs a sensor replaced again.  An ERG or something like that.  It's an emissions sensor that serves no purpose but won't pass inspection that Pa. has yearly.  It was replaced once about three years ago.  My inspection is in Feb. The mechanic at the place Joey used to work let Joey put the car on the computer.  He told Joey to take it off and clean it.  Joey can replace it but it costs a couple of hundred for the part.  They said it causes no damage to the car at all; just won't stop emissions into the atmosphere.  Sorry guys, but right now I could give a rat's behind about that.

Wish me Lord help me to watch my words. 



hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((CHRIS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))I am sorry things arent looking good for your daughter,you and your family and your cat will be in my prayers.HAve a nice weekend.

jlocorriere05 said...

Hi Chris, I'm sorry for all the hassle poor Becky has. She's probably not got the art of saying no yet, being so young she still  probably believes in the do as we say thing. I do hope it'll work out for you. She sounds a sweet girl, not wanting to stress her aunt, doesn't her aunt realise that it causes Becky stress? I do hope Mocha will be OK. I wished Shelly a happy birthday yesterday! Hope you can get your car sorted too! Jeannette xx  

nelishianatl said...

Follow your mother's instinct here.  She still needs you whether she's able to admit it or not.  Help Beckly.  She might get mad now but she'll thank you later.  I just wish I'd had someone who cared half as much as you do.  This entry touched my heart.  I'll remember you all in prayer that things'll work out for the best for you and Becky.  

jeadie05 said...

Iam so pleased your kitty turned up ,they do when they are hungry dont they lol ,I am so sorry about  your worrys concerning Becky wish I knew what to advise ,but these things do tend to work out ,.,.,love Jan xx

queeniemart said...

you go get them Mama Bear......there is no better bodyguard/cheerleader for your three gorgeous and SMART kiddies than you. I cant wait to hear the end result of this.
LOVE, lisa jo

jeanno43 said...

I am so glad your cat turned up, I had a real feeling she would. Hope you get the problems with your daughter sorted out.

jckfrstross said...

have a good weekend:)


mrsm711 said...

You are doing just fine.  You care so deeply that this will be handled with your personal touch and everything will soon be alright, once again! :)

lanurseprn said...

Glad you found kitty!  I hope you get your daughter's issues settled soon. How stressful!  
Good luck with the car, too.  You've got a lot going on right now Chris!  I hope you enjoy your weekend.

lisa41076 said...

Chris, so glad your kitty turned up, good luck with Becky's move !!!!!!! Hope everything goes ok for her, Hugs to you Lisa

seraphoflove9001 said...

Oh my...good luck.

chat2missie said...

Good Luck today with Becky.

siennastarr said...

I feel so bad for your daughter, Chris..    I used to be that way when I was younger.  I could never say "no" to people.  I was always afraid I would offend them, or they would get mad at me and never speak to me anymore.  Amazing how we change as we get older.  I have no problem saying No now.. or telling someone exactly how I feel about something.  If you don't stand up for yourself, who will?  Poor Becky.. she has gotten herself into a bind, hasn't she?  
Well, mom.. hopefully, you can make it all right for her again.  That's what we do, isn't it?

Maybe we can chat on the phone this weekend, if you aren't busy? :)

Love and Hugs

helloimkara said...

Poor Becky.  What a lot of stress. I sure hope she can work it all out.  I know what you mean about wanting to stay out of it. It is hard to come to the rescue all the time. Thats what I always have to do in my family and it is tough!  

Kara :)

chevyz71gurl74 said...

Poor Becky...I would have to bite my damn tongue if i was in your position...but why should you....the aunt should have already had their things out of the house ready for Becky to move in......i'm with your b/f   tell them it's a load of crap and move Becky's things back to the apt.....was she only moving so she wouldn't hurt her aunts feelings..?  Or because it was going to be cheaper...whichever the you said she doesn't have time for this crap with school and all....wishing Becky well....and you as well =)
Hugss ~Terri~

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helmswondermom said...

Stay cool, mom, and I hope everything works out for your daughter.

xxroxymamaxx said...

Thanks Chris for the birthday wishes.  And I do hope everything worked out for Becky.  Big hugs and GBU, Shelly

ally123130585918 said...

Chris I'm glad your kitty came home ~ I hope everything turns out well for Becky with the move ~ Ally

penniepooh said...

I`m a little behind on my journal reading & didn`t realize all this was going on with Becky`s move! I liked your suggestion of not moving in, esp with the aunt`s things still taking up all that space. How stressful. Boy, you must be glad this is all behind you now....or at least most of it.
Love ya,

shayshaydc said...

Seems like we are always having to intervene when it comes to our children no matter how old they are!!!! Hope things work out for Becky... and for you to!!!!